Sexual Anorexia Rocks Marriages
No Healthy Desire For Sex
Simply put, like food
anorexia, sexual anorexia is gross distaste for sex. Victim has no healthy desire or appetite for sex.
Most victims of this
disorder are women.
Men do experience it
Sexual relations form part of the Benefits of
And except for occasions in which both or one
of the couple is involved in prayer and fasting, the Author of Marriage Covenant says they should enjoy sex with each other often.
But if a wife has this problem, she comes up with divers
excuses to avoid being touched by her husband.
-I am tired, Not tonight,
-I need to attend to some
-The kids are awake and
need my attention
-My head is aching
-My tummy is churning
-I am pregnant
-I am too sleepy
And many more…
Some of these excuses are imagined, or outright cop-out.
What Causes This form of Anorexia?
The causes are many.
Childhood sexual abuse
is one. This ingrains sex in the brain of the victim as a painful and terrifying event.
And the husband could,
unfortunately, be seen as the villain.
Old Wives' Fables
Mum said sex is sin.
Sex is bad.
Therefore, even when married and licensed to do it,
this mindset plagues the girl inside the woman.
She becomes frigid at every attempt by her hubby to
enjoy sex with her.
Of course, frigidity makes the whole exercise painful for
the woman to the embarrassment and chagrin of her hubby.
She ends up with a perfect hatred for sex.
Continuous pressure at work and at home could bring an
aversion for sex.
Inability to forgive and let go
When issues are left to fester between couples,
sexual relation is grossly affected.
If this is left untreated, one or
even both slip into sexual anorexia.
Effects Of Sexual Anorexia
-This anorexia results in unreleased libido
unnecessary tension and irritability.
-A spouse feels denied of what's his due.
-Often, the unsaid reason for separation and divorce is
lack of sexual satisfaction.
An older friend told how she loathed
sex before getting married.
Their 3-week honeymoon was spent
She was frigid and made the whole sex exercise a bore for the hubby. From this point, they were just at each others neck. In a few years, they parted ways, divorced.
Their marriage hit the rocks because
of rocks in their bed from day one.
I had sexual anorexia. Especially because I had food anorexia.
As I lacked appetite for food, and hated eating, I lacked stamina
and hated even the suggestion of sex.
This went on for quite some time.
Fortunately, a family friend told me about a great book. I Read This Book and It Turned On My Desire For Sex With My Hubby Again!
And many have read this book and got the same results I got.
It is a small and very practical book.
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